In order for us to evolve, we must forgive ourselves in complete humility time and time again. Each and every one of our spiritual journeys is long and consistently incomplete [evolving]. Brimming with ebbs and flows between light and dark, each one of us must find gratitude in the cracks of our mistakes and allow this to be where our healing begins.
Wholehearted self-forgiveness has a large potential to equate to wholehearted self love, but it is important to be careful not to get stuck in the paradox of this. In other words, it is important to forgive yourself for not loving yourself in every moment, and equally so, it is important to love yourself, even if you haven't quite forgiven yourself yet. In a recent conversation with a friend, we covered the topic of change. To quote our conversation, "You have to accept people wherever they are at with patience, love, kindness, and understanding - otherwise, you might try to bend something so much that it breaks." Upon reflection of this statement, it came clear to me that we also need to approach ourselves in this manner when attempting to make any sort of internal change or shift - especially one that is geared towards self forgiveness. In being too hard on ourselves (ie. allowing our ego to take charge), we may begin to deviate so far away from our truth on our path to forgiveness that we crack and crumble.
Allow yourself moments of big big love on your journey to forgiveness. Find pockets of gratitude and bathe in them for as long as you can take.
Be gentle, be honest, be kind, and in the words of Cheryl Strayed;
“Don't surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn't true anymore.”